Fatherhood

Father’s day is around the corner and we will be celebrating fathers all over the world. However, we need to define who truly a father is.

Who is a Father?

A father is a biological male parent who has been given the assignment to lead a home. He is the spiritual head. He helps to bring forth and nurture a child to adulthood to become a responsible citizen and leader in the society. Children who experience significant father involvement tend to exhibit higher scores in their assessments, have enhanced social skills, tend to do better in school and have fewer behavioural problems.

 

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A father is so important to both girls and boys and must be there for the children because they get their identity from him and bear his name. Most times, fathers put emphasis on their jobs and do not even pause to find out what is happening in the lives of their children or engage them in healthy discussions. Children who are raised without fathers perceive themselves to be less cognitively and physically competent than their peers.

Statistics say that eighty -five percent of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home. Seventy – one percent of high school drop- outs come out of fatherless homes. Eighty percent of rapists with displaced anger come from fatherless homes.

Keys to Successful Fatherhood

Quality Time-Spend time with your children. Give yourself, not just money and things to your child. You need to make time for some quality attention. The acid test of a father’s leadership is not in the realm of social skills, public relations, managerial abilities in the office or how well he handles himself in public, it is in the home. Keep a calendar of scheduled family time. Find out what your teenagers are involved in and be involved in these activities that interest them so that they can know that it is not all about you. Take interests in their assignments, their music, their clothing, their technology and they will appreciate that you are interested in their world. Try and find a point of connection. Plan outings and spend time away from home together.

 

Father reading a book to his son

Father reading a book to his son

 Lead by example– It is not about what you say but what you do. A good father will leave his imprint on his children for the rest of their lives. Teach them values as a father; do not leave everything to the mother. The bible says, ‘’the seed of the righteous shall be mighty on the earth.’’ So if we are uncompromising righteous, our seed will be mighty on the earth. At the end of the day, our children look like us. So if you do not like what you see, you have to look inward at yourself.

To fathers all over the world we say, “Your labour of love over your children will not be in vain, in Jesus name. Amen.

Happy father’s day

 

In His love

Adenike Adeyemi

 

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TAKE YOUR PLACE (PART 3)

fear2The uncertainty of the future makes it difficult for us to leave our comfort zone, however we should never forget that our security is in God who owns and knows the future.

Fear is one of the major things that hinder us from taking our place; fear of rejection, shame or death. When fear shows up, you have to confront it. If God is the one that called you, He knows his reputation is at stake, so you just relax and not be afraid.fear

You have to be bold and courageous to do what God has called you to do, in spite of fear; do it because you are convinced it is what you are meant to do. The scary thoughts in your heart are propaganda of the enemy, so that you won’t take the step you are supposed to take in line with destiny.

Doing is a key to succeeding. When you are bold to do what God has called you to do, you get the reward of fulfilment.  You have victory upfront in Christ; fight from a victory point of view.  John the Baptist knew his place and he told the people around him when they asked him, though his place might not have been very big and awesome like that of Jesus; he knew and was confident of his place.
Lastly, look up to God and not to any man or woman. Make him number one on your priority list.  It is your walk with God that really matters because He is the one that would place your feet on the solid ground.

Step out in faith this week and God will back you up.

In His Love

Adenike Adeyemi

Take Your Place. Part 2

african-american-mother-bonding-with-baby-boy-1It is in the family that God has created opportunities for us to grow.  Decide to take your place spiritually in your home and fix your eyes on God, the author and finisher of your faith.

As a father or mother, don’t take your anger and frustration out on your children. As a wife, be tender and caring; and as a husband, love your wife and provide for your family. Some mothers have abandoned their duty post; their milk of kindness has dried up.  Duty post is not about being physically present all the time, but it’s when your heart follows your child and you carefully make choices that benefit the child.

As a wife, take your place in your husband’s life; you have a role to play whether visible or not; be an asset and a blessing to him. There is a role of prayer, respect, honour and loving selflessly; these are the meanings of submission.

Are you being cheated on? It is not time to cry and be wimpy all over the place. Take your place spiritually; take it by praying over your home, it isimagesB3ZOFZIO yours.  Stand in gap; go on your knees and things will happen for good in your life. You will not be replaced in your family, ministry, career and business. But your eyes have to be on the Lord. Take your place spiritually and at the fullness of time all issues and troubles will be resolved in your favour. Sometimes you might not hear a clear word, but do what comes to your mind as you commune with God. Be a lady that dwells in the secret place of the most high.

Woman, ensure that you are fulfilling your calling; let your life minister to people and let people see God in your actions. There is a lot more in us than we really know and we need to bless people that are around us with it.  Let people leave your presence and feel the goodness of God’s blessings and favour upon your life.

Let the Light of God shine through what you do, so arise and take your place.

In His Presence

Adenike Adeyemi