Father’s day is around the corner and we will be celebrating fathers all over the world. However, we need to define who truly a father is.
Who is a Father?
A father is a biological male parent who has been given the assignment to lead a home. He is the spiritual head. He helps to bring forth and nurture a child to adulthood to become a responsible citizen and leader in the society. Children who experience significant father involvement tend to exhibit higher scores in their assessments, have enhanced social skills, tend to do better in school and have fewer behavioural problems.
A father is so important to both girls and boys and must be there for the children because they get their identity from him and bear his name. Most times, fathers put emphasis on their jobs and do not even pause to find out what is happening in the lives of their children or engage them in healthy discussions. Children who are raised without fathers perceive themselves to be less cognitively and physically competent than their peers.
Statistics say that eighty -five percent of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home. Seventy – one percent of high school drop- outs come out of fatherless homes. Eighty percent of rapists with displaced anger come from fatherless homes.
Keys to Successful Fatherhood
Quality Time-Spend time with your children. Give yourself, not just money and things to your child. You need to make time for some quality attention. The acid test of a father’s leadership is not in the realm of social skills, public relations, managerial abilities in the office or how well he handles himself in public, it is in the home. Keep a calendar of scheduled family time. Find out what your teenagers are involved in and be involved in these activities that interest them so that they can know that it is not all about you. Take interests in their assignments, their music, their clothing, their technology and they will appreciate that you are interested in their world. Try and find a point of connection. Plan outings and spend time away from home together.
Lead by example– It is not about what you say but what you do. A good father will leave his imprint on his children for the rest of their lives. Teach them values as a father; do not leave everything to the mother. The bible says, ‘’the seed of the righteous shall be mighty on the earth.’’ So if we are uncompromising righteous, our seed will be mighty on the earth. At the end of the day, our children look like us. So if you do not like what you see, you have to look inward at yourself.
To fathers all over the world we say, “Your labour of love over your children will not be in vain, in Jesus name. Amen.
Happy father’s day
In His love